I remember when I was pregnant with Kate & about to be a first time mom.
I was filled with excitement, anticipation & feeling like I had no idea what we were getting ourselves into.
Even though I had babysat a ton in middle school & high school and was comfortable around babies, I wanted to make sure Kevin and I were TOTALLY prepared for when baby came.
The last few months of my pregnancy we got the nursery ready, we registered, people threw me baby showers. We were "prepared" with all the baby items.
Our hospital offered classes for expecting parents. We took the Infant CPR class, care of Newborn class, the breastfeeding class, took the hospital tour and of course took the 2 day Labor & Delivery class. I read books, and articles & websites. Information overload, but I was prepared!
We were ready!
My due date came & went and 2 days after, my doctor decided to induce me because it was a "big" baby.
The induction went well, I was pumped full of pitocin, got an epidural 12 hours into it, had to push for almost 3 hours and then heard the most glorious words ever spoken, "It's a GIRL!"
We were overcome with emotion, so happy to have delivered a healthy 8.5 pound baby girl.
Which left me with a 2nd degree tear and almost 20 stitches. Yowza.
I was on an adrenaline rush & felt no pain. And also, epidural. Thank you, Jesus.
Because of my long labor, I hadn't slept in 36 hours, but I was on cloud 9. I went to sleep that night with our baby girl in the isolette next to me in the hospital room feeling incredible.
I had just birthed a baby. I was officially a mother.
I woke up the next morning being poked prodded by nurses who were checking on me "down there" It had been over 12 hours since I gave birth, so all the meds had worn off.
I felt like I had been hit by a semi-truck.
My whole body hurt.
My legs, my arms, my neck, my jaw muscles, my face.
I was a college athlete. I played all 4 years of college & did 3 a days during preseason.
I thought I was tough & had a good pain tolerance.
But, this? The after birth pain? Ridiculous.
My right hand, my index, middle and ring fingers had nerve damage from holding my legs while pushing for 3 hours.
The tips of those 3 fingers were numb and tingly. It was very strange. It lasted 2 weeks!
WHY DIDN'T ANYONE TELL ME ABOUT THE AFTER BIRTH PAIN?
I took all those classes at the hospital.
I had tons of friends who had babies.
NO ONE TOLD ME ABOUT THE AFTER BIRTH PAIN!
Why doesn't anyone talk about it?
No one tells you about that pain you feel the next day after giving birth!
Or the amount of blood that comes out of you!!!
The blood, oh the blood.
Since my birth with Kate, I made sure EVERY WOMAN I knew who was pregnant & having a baby for the first time was informed about the after birth.
More people need to talk about it.
There needs to be awareness about the blood & the pain that you feel in your lady parts.
And, it didn't just last for a few days.
About a week after having Kate, I was having pain when I went #2.
The hospital sent me home with stool softeners, but when they ran out a few days later, I never got a new bottle. I thought I was fine.
I was not fine.
Every time I went to the bathroom, it felt like I was (excuse my language) "shitting a knife".
There was blood and I couldn't sit down for a few hours after going #2.
I assumed it was a hemorrhoid.
I managed to not get hemorrhoids during my pregnancy, but I assumed that I developed one while pushing out a baby for 3 hours.
I made an appointment with my doctor to get my 'roid checked out.
He did a full on 'roid check.
That was embarrassing. And uncomfortable.
Turns out it wasn't a hemrohoid.
It was an ANAL FISSUE.
Which is basically a tear in your a$$ hole.
Because I tore so badly in my lady parts when giving birth, it also caused tears in the other whole.
Every time I went #2, it got worse. And because I stopped my stool softeners a few days after giving birth, it really caused issues, like an Anal Fissue.
Because of my fissure (who I referred to as Fred the Fissure),
I had to be on stool softeners and sit on a pillow until Kate was SIX MONTHS OLD.
I couldn't use toilet paper (too painful) but had to use moist towelettes every time I went to the bathroom. FOR SIX MONTHS.
Why do I tell you these things?
Because no one told me about the after birth pain.
No class mentioned it & none of my friends who had given birth talked about it.
But me? I tell all my 1st time to be mom friends about it.
The good news?
My after birth & recoveries with Claire & Luke were a piece of cake.
But that first time? That was rough.
Moral of the story?
Don't stop taking Stool Softeners until a few weeks after birth or you might end up with some issues like me. Somehow, that got left out of all the books & classes I read while preparing for Kate's birth & becoming a mother. Stool softeners are your friend. Fred the Fissure is not.
Talk about your after birth stories with friends.
You can learn a lot from each other.
My story is Chapter 4 in the MAM Blogger Real Parenting Guide. I encourage you to read other chapters and find out more about all the stuff, like the bottles, pacifiers and teethers that MAM makes to make the job of parenting easier.
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